Many people have brilliant ideas but are often unable to manifest them. What prevents them from moving forward? The ego. This is because the ego’s goal is keep us in low vibration thought patterns that perpetuate negative thoughts and beliefs such as fear, judgement, lack, selfishness, shame and jealousy. These kinds of thoughts often contribute to a perpetual cycle of self-defeating behaviors. A solid foundation cannot be built on a continual loop of negative thought. Something must break loose, to free the mind enough to allow it to travel in a new direction.
Learning to direct your energy and attention to your inner intuitive guidance system, or higher self, will allow you to rewrite the physical circuitry of the brain to create new mental paths. This then allows for new outcomes that are positive. This is often referred to as neuroplasticity in the world of science.
“We spend far too much time complaining about the way things are, and forget that we have the power to change everything.” – Bozoma Saint John
According to Joe Dispenza, “Neuroplasticity is our natural ability to change how the brain’s neurons are connected and organized into circuits, which we call its synaptic wiring. Every time we learn something new or have a novel experience, the brain makes new synaptic connections to form new neural patterns of networks – and this happens at any age. When we utilize new circuits in new ways, we rewire the brain to fire in new sequences.”
We can use the idea of neuroplasticity to create change for ourselves, so that we can move into a more positive state and open ourselves up to more opportunities, change, and growth. This process allows us to step out of the mind chatter and mental loops. The continual travelling of the same neural pathways repeatedly reinforces the thoughts and behaviors behind the chatter and loops. Finding a way to stop this pattern and create openings for new thoughts and behaviors is quite literally be mind-changing.
Working with the higher mind allows us to intuitively create. So how do you tap into the higher mind? The first step is to stop the mind chatter. There are many ways to approach this. One example is to bring your attention to your breath. Pay attention to each inhale and exhale, giving notice only to the breath. If you catch yourself thinking a thought, let it pass. Don’t judge yourself for having the thought, just notice it and then continue with the exercise.
It is life changing to create new neural pathways in the brain. To open the mind to new possibilities opens our life to change and new outcomes. I will be posting some videos soon to offer some techniques to practice mindfulness throughout your day. Visit me at www.AwakeningTheCore.com and on my Facebook Page to learn about tapping into your unique personal growth and development.
There are times where we find ourselves to be self-critical or judgmental of others. There may be something that we view as negative and we spend time giving our energy away while ruminating about it.
We may take situations personally and feel offended by the actions or words of others. Or we may misunderstand an agreement and find ourselves assuming something which is inaccurate. Or perhaps we are the one who was not clearly communicating.
We can also be afraid to be ourselves, afraid of not being perfect and of vulnerability. We try to create an image of perfection to please others but this fails us because we are not being true to ourselves. When we feel we are not perfect enough, then we may feel self rejection.
We make so many agreements with ourselves. Perhaps “I am not any good at…” or “I always…” or “I am a failure at…” or “I am better than anyone else at …” or “I cannot…” or “I should…”. The repetitive mantras we tell ourselves can often be negative. A better mantra might be something more like “I am loving when I…”, “I am capable when…”, “I am kind…”, or “I am honest…”. What would you rather reinforce? What kind of agreements should you be making?
So many difficult situations arise when we shift into old programmed behaviors that are less than loving and kind. There is much conditioning that goes into the thoughts and ideas we have about ourselves, others, and our world. By changing our agreements, we open up to new and improved outcomes.
We can break ourselves from negativity if we become aware of it and put in the work to create change. This in turn helps us to move from a toxic state into a more positive state. Everyone is challenged at one time or another. We are not perfect and that is what makes us so beautiful as humans because we have so many situations presented to us that allow us to grow.
We can find some enlightening concepts in a book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, which “reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needles suffering.” The agreements are a code of conduct that allow us to transform our lives, increase freedom, happiness, and love.
I read this book over ten years ago when I was working in a harsh environment where I took difficult phone calls for a company. It was this book that helped me to see that the negative comments said to me over the phone were not about me at all, but rather they reflected the customer’s perceptions surrounding their own individual circumstances. Instead of taking their words personally, I learned to listen to the story behind their words to determine what was important to them so that I could offer them genuine understanding and the best assistance possible.
Just recently I found myself having a number of life situations that felt less than desirable. Before taking any action or making any judgement about myself or others, I decided to take time to reflect on what happened and how it could have gone better. It’s easy to make a quick judgement and point fingers, but ultimately I needed to observe the situation, figure out where I needed to improve, and to not condemn anyone involved (including myself). Forgiveness is important as well as maintaining a healthy and loving attitude. Even when we make mistakes, we can still adopt the principles behind the Four Agreements to move forward. We can create positive and loving interactions with both ourselves and others.
Be Impeccable with Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
If you are not sure of something, ask questions, clarify, and reach out for more information. Say what you mean. This doesn’t mean to be unfiltered. Kindness and honesty are important. Don’t wander off with your words, saying something that sort of kind of means what you want to say but not exactly. Passive aggressive communication is not the best way for us to help others understand our concerns and intent. Words (and tone) are important, and it is critical that we are clear.
Say what you think and speak your truth without blurting. Avoid using words that negatively impact yourself or gossip about others. When we speak an untruth about others, there is no benefit or positive flow. It might feel good at the moment to vent, share, or express yourself, but the aftermath of that not being impeccable is then out there forever. This creates a potentially toxic flow of energy. And toxicity requires healing and resolution.
Embellishing a statement or expanding into an area of half-truths to make a point is also lacking in impeccability. Are you using a casual bunch of words or one well said word? Also, be aware of your voice – is it loud, forceful, high pitched, or demanding? Is it irritated, intolerant, or unkind? Or perhaps emotional, whining, or freaked out? Making a conscious choice to speak evenly and slowly with intent and truth, when you are ready, is an opportunity to have others listen because they respect you more when there isn’t an emotional charge. People will listen to and respect words that have been well thought out delivered in a calm voice.
Think before you speak, make sure you are communicating clearly, and reach out for understanding in a loving and truthful manner. This may require follow up or asking questions to make sure both parties are clear about intent and expectations. Most importantly, strive to always act and communicate with integrity, truth, and loving intent.
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Nothing that someone else does is because of you. Everything everyone does is because of them, their dream, their vision, their interpretations, and projections. What other people do and say is their projection of reality. When we become immune to the opinions and actions of others, there is nothing to take personally. This negates suffering because no one can make us feel sad, angry, or bad. We choose how we feel. Always. If we choose to base our feelings on other’s behaviors, we are allowing it.
We ultimately make the choice as to what belongs to us or not. We do not own other people’s projections of reality or behaviors and we do not need to make them our own, unless we choose to. We always have this choice.
So if something someone is doing is upsetting to you, remember that you don’t have to own that. You don’t have to take that on. Take that moment to stop and remind yourself that you get to choose moving forward how you feel and what you want to think about. It takes practice but this is one of the best things you could ever consciously work on.
Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
We all do it. A lightning-fast judgement is easy to come by and it’s challenging to find freedom in this way of operating. We must find the courage to ask questions and to express what we truly want. Sometimes we don’t want to step on other’s toes or bother them so we don’t ask for what we want. We are all guilty of this because we don’t want to ask questions. We are often afraid to ask questions because we don’t want to feel less than.
We are more respected when we do ask questions. Look deep for the courage to ask the questions that need to be asked. When someone misunderstands you, it is not them, it is us because we have chosen not to be articulate enough. When there is a misunderstanding, you are a co-creator, not the person who didn’t hear you clearly. This means you didn’t speak clearly or articulate clearly. If we can communicate clearly as we are possibly able to, we will have less drama and sadness.
Being truly willing to step out and ask questions instead of assuming will powerfully evolve ourselves from where we are to where we want to be. This agreement is difficult because we are afraid of appearing less than brilliant, perfect, powerful, or whole. The reality is that everyone can engage and freeing ourselves of assumptions is truly empowering
Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.
We are always operating from our own level of consciousness. When you can evolve your level of consciousness and work forward from that point, you are striving to do your best. When we are sick, weak, or having difficulty, we are coming from a different level of consciousness. We need to accept where we are at and not judge ourselves so harshly. Would you treat a friend like that? If not, then you are likely not being a good friend to yourself either. It’s okay if we did something stupid, said something we didn’t mean, made a mistake or were not clear… but this leaves a toxic residue out there if left unresolved.
If we can turn it around and understand that we were not paying full attention or that we did or said something wrong, we can understand that we were doing our best at that moment, kindly offer acceptance to ourselves, request forgiveness from others, and eliminate regret. If we are coming from our best self at our personal highest level of consciousness, we can negate that self-criticism and regret. Do not get mired in self judgement.
The Four Agreements are something that we can integrate into our daily life and if everyone practiced these, it would change the world. It takes time to integrate these practices into our lives, not just a day. We have decades of conditioned behaviors to contend with when we start and even with practice, no one is ever a hundred percent.
I invite you to find ways to integrate these practices into your daily life and experience the power and transformation they offer. You can focus on one agreement each day, for example, and find inventive and creative ways to implement it. Over time you can find many opportunities to usher in positive energy into your life through use of the agreements. Which one will you start with?
There have been so many hearts opening up and people sharing so much of themselves recently. In some cases, they are sharing things from a long ago past and in other instances they are sharing a more recent emotion such as sadness, anger, or a sense of inadequacy. Whether it is from long ago or more recently, the act of sharing creates a much-needed release. Each and every one is a beautiful sharing. We can heal together collectively by expressing ourselves like this. It is through being courageous and open that we can liberate ourselves from the old, making room to bring in the new.
New experiences, new joy and new thoughts and ideas that we can use to define who we are moving forward. New space for new energy.
Facing past difficulties or sharing them may seem scary at first but once you take that leap – the reward is an amazing gift. A gift of self-acceptance, peace and the creation of a new energetic space that allows you to grow.
The past has been coming up quite a bit lately for many people, myself included. It seems as though we are cleansing ourselves of old stories that have taken up residence in our physical spaces, minds and bodies for years, or perhaps lifetimes, and it has become a time of collective release. We hold these stories in our minds, sometimes burying the emotions that go with them into places in our bodies like knees, feet, kidneys, shoulders, backs, hands, and hearts, to name a few. They dwell inside of us, waiting for recognition and processing.
It feels so good to process and release. The first step is to recognize what’s going on. We can look at pain and emotion and instead of ignoring it, we can ask our bodies what information it is trying to tell us. And then when we understand we can acknowledge it and investigate the ways in which it has resided inside of ourselves. And then we can finally release it and move forward. Self-care, self-love and nurturing are also part of this process. This may take some time and working through it is different for everyone.
Just yesterday I got a little bit of unexpected back pain and have been spending time today trying to figure out what the message is. Somehow it feels like a final release of the past and letting go of the old. I have been going through a lot of old physical belongings, especially from my childhood, teen years and from when I was a young adult. These have brought up a lot of memories, many good, some not so much. Sometimes we hang on to old beliefs or ideas that no longer serve us – or perhaps we had a misunderstanding that we have carried around with us for years without being aware of it. It feels important that I process these old feelings so that I can move on.
Through acknowledgement and getting to know ourselves at the deepest level, it if from here that we can grow and move forward in peace.
I would love to hear more about how you have embodied an emotion and how you handled/are handling it. What is your experience? And what steps have you taken so far to get to where you are at?
In life we go through phases and we tend to ebb and flow in to and out of situations that help us to learn and grow. I wrote a post about creativity on my blog a little over a year ago in September 2016 (also posted below). At that time, I was in the middle of many changes in my life. Part of this change was to abandon perfectionism and to continually find ways to nurture my creative self.
There have been phases in my life where I was not doing much creatively except perhaps with gardening or cooking. I may not have been practicing my spirituality outwardly at times but I was never disconnected from it either. I have always found a link with the creator through nature especially. But I have, at times, forgotten that I too am a creator.
I am presently finding many ways to express my creative self. It’s a beautiful process that allows me to celebrate the joy of life. The purpose of living this life is to experience the dark and the light, the good and the bad, and to celebrate that which moves us. For me it is the love and light in my heart that I want to focus on the most. My intuition guides me as I let the creativity flow forth and this is truly a blessing. My jewelry and creative pursuits are featured on the Tools for Spirit page and can also be seen in my Etsy shop at SonyaJulieCreative.
I encourage you to take time for creativity, perhaps giving yourself permission to be creative if there has been a complete void. Being good enough or “talented” is not a requirement. Try anything and everything! Get your hands into clay or dough, try drawing or painting, try music or dance, find a coloring book, do a search for local art centers or classes. Find videos for inspiration and try new things. Find something that brings out your inner joy – that childlike joy that brings you to that space of ease. Most importantly have fun.
I have decided that I need to be much more creative. That I need to return to that joyous feeling of creating without expectation. I want to play with clay, paint, and beads. I want to dance, sing, play instruments, write poems, and share my story through art.
I loved artistic projects as a little girl. I was never concerned with doing something the right way, I just created. And it was fun.
I have artists on both sides of my family. My aunt was a graphic artist for the local phone company and designed ads for the phone book by hand. Each year for Christmas she would give me a big box filled with all sizes and types of paper, pencils, pens, crayons, markers, and all manner of art supplies. It would vary from year to year and it was always fun. I always felt so happy and grateful for my annual box of art supplies.
I would create dioramas with shoe boxes, mobiles, window art, sculpture, and more. I loved to draw, paint, color, and create. I would fashion flowers from paper, make cars from boxes, and sculpt the earth outdoors.
I learned guitar as a young girl and as I grew older I learned to play the flute along with the penny whistle, basic piano, accordion, bass drum, and any instrument I could get my hands on.
In middle school I would draw mazes and write stories. I learned photography and I learned to dye fabric. I learned the basics of architecture and drew grand homes. I sketched out ideas for fashionable outfits and clothing patterns.
In my early twenties I learned to make jewelry and began to sell it on consignment. I sewed clothing without patterns, wrote poetry, and continued to draw and paint. I made dreamcatchers and suncatchers to hang from windows and walls. I would express myself through dance and singing. I felt so alive when I created.
Then came college years, work years, and times of difficulty.
And then it all seemed to stop. I moved to a different home, packed up the beads and art supplies – much of it getting buried in a storage unit and the remainder in a dark attic. My only artistic outlet became gardening during times of depression and poor health. It certainly helped in times of sorrow to ground myself with my connection to the earth as my tears soaked into the soil as I created life and hope through planting little bits of life. The birds chirped, letting me know that joy was just around the corner, only if I would be brave enough to seek it.
I recovered slowly and I began writing again. And I would draw once in a while, maybe color a picture. I started learning to cook and that could be a creative outlet. But my creative self seemed to be a thing of the past. I missed that young artistic woman who was me once. The one who created freely with abandon and joy. What happened?
I began to write more and I knew it was something I needed to do more of – but I quietly worried that I wouldn’t write about the right things, that somehow I wasn’t doing it the correct way. I feared what others would think. I would start the introduction to a book and quit after a few pages or the first chapter.
I went to a Traditional Arts weekend and painted with water colors, played with batik dyes, and rolled dough in my hands as I formed yeasty balls that would bake into golden loaves. I learned to waltz to Cajun music and admired art.
I pulled out the beads, dusted and sorted the rich colors of the beautiful earthy materials and began making bracelets and necklaces again.
I learned that perfectionism was my enemy and that I could enjoy life whether I was in control or not. That nothing has to be a certain way. That surprises are fun.
Slowly my creative self returns and with that return I am feeling more alive and joyous. I feel an urgency to return to my creative roots, as though I have abandoned myself and I have been left parched in an empty desert. I seek to bury my hands in clay, string beads, write songs, and play with colors. Textures, sounds, and words waiting to happen. Through me. I must now be brave and courageous. Fear will not do. I have overcome many dark and difficult things to arrive at these days of joy. And the story of my journey must be shared. It is time.