Ophiuchus and the Grand Cycle: Chaos and Convergence on Planet Earth

Great change is taking place on our planet as we witness chaos, revolutions, and technological breakthroughs. We are living in a time like no other. Some would have us believe we are living in a time of doom, but we have moved beyond this potential into a more powerful timeline that is moving humanity forward rapidly into the light. Literally.

Our solar system orbits the great central sun at the center of the Milky Way Galaxy. This orbit brings us through the photon belt of the Pleiades every 25,920 years. In 1962 astronomers discovered that Earth would be entering this photon belt stream in 2012. This cycle is nestled within more coinciding cycles and culminate together into a Grand Cycle. We are at a highly significant point, a 206-million-year cycle that is referred to as Harmonic Convergence. The Ancient Mayans knew that 2012 was a point beyond which there were no prophecies. Stories of Armageddon, the apocalypse, and other well-known prophecies of doom were schedule to occur leading up to 2012, the year of our likely demise.

But here we are, alive and well on planet Earth and raring to go. Humanity is indeed at a point of ascension, a point in which we are growing into something more, we are coming home to who we really are. We lift the veil of illusion to find our true God Selves in our unity. The Sun entered Ophiuchus on November 30 and will remain in front of Ophiuchus until December 18. This “recently discovered” sign of the zodiac represents the awakening of humanity.

Ophiuchus is the Serpent Bearer and is a large constellation straddling the celestial equator. It is opposite of Orion (the Gate of Man) and is depicted as a man grasping a serpent.  It is the only constellation of human form which aligns directly with the center of the Milky Way Galaxy, a representation of humanity’s highest potential as spiritual and physical beings. Many people across the globe are awakening, and becoming enlightened in many forms of spiritual learning.

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Ophiuchus is the controversial 13th sign of the Zodiac and ranges from November 29 through December 17. Those of this sign are said to be seekers of wisdom and knowledge and that they are good at healing and architecture. This sign is associated with Imhotep who lived in the 27th Century BC in Ancient Egypt, also known as Aesculapius by the Ancient Greeks. Imhotep, “the one who comes in peace”; was an Egyptian chancellor to the pharaoh Djoser, probable architect of the step pyramid, and high priest of the sun god Ra at Heliopolis.

There is a connection with Ophiuchus and the thirteenth invisible strand of DNA. Humans have twelve visible strands and the thirteenth one is a form of consciousness that we will experience when Orion and Ophiuchus reunite in harmony, removing the veil and coming together in perfect balance. This will be the highest evolution of the universe.

Ophiuchus has no opposite polarity and is associated with the Awakening and Ascension of the human race. At the end of time, Mayans said that man would awaken the serpent (also known as Quetzalcoatl to the Aztecs) to save the world from cataclysmic destruction and carry the nine races of man forward. Many indigenous people also have prophecies that are similar. For example, the native American Anishnabe prophesied the seven fires and the seventh fire is the time when all of humanity unites together in unity.

The evolution of consciousness on Earth is happening now. Many have changed their ways, conducting their own research and soul searching. You are invited to join this wave of people who are finding independent and critical thinking to be life changing. Humanity is bringing the dark to the light and no longer standing for corruption, illness, lies and darkness.

Ophiuchus has transcended the wheel of twelve zodiacs and represents the foundation of humanity moving into the future. Reuniting with our higher selves is at the core of the Mayan 2012 phenomenon, the Satya Yuga, the Hopi Fifth World, the Anishnabe Seven Fires, and the Age of Aquarius. Humanity is seeking out change and embracing transformative healing within global society.

Ophiuchus is the healer, ushering in the grand time of change, inviting every single one of us to review, heal, and connect. We are truly entering a time like no other. When we look at the grand cycles of the galaxy, we can see the merging of science and the esoteric.

I invite you to think about how this present cycle through the constellation of Ophiuchus mirrors situations in your personal life as well as in our global life. Where do you see yourself transcending old patterns and wanting to move forward? What feels old and like it needs to be left behind? What do you want to replace that with? How do you see this on a larger global scale? In what ways can humanity heal that which the light has revealed?

This is an exciting time, a culmination of cycles and the awakening of human kind. Our current position among the stars is magnificently significant. Ophiuchus sits opposite of Orion, the Gate of Man. Humanity has been behind a veil for thousands of years, and now as we come back into alignment with Ophiuchus, the Gate of Man will be opened, and we will reunite with our ancient wisdom and the knowledge that together, we are one.

The Pleiades Star Cluster Credit and Copyright: Robert Gendler

 

 

 

My Transformative Experience at The Path of Consciousness Spiritual and Writing Retreat

By Sonya Julie

A large hawk circles overhead as the fog shrouds the corridor of trees, their soft autumn hues beginning to blush. I travel through the beautiful mist on this cool October day as I head to the Path of Consciousness Conference and Retreat. My dear friend Weam Namou has created this event from a vision she has had, following the urging of purpose unfolding from her soul.

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An autumn leaf on the forest floor sits upon the trail that many attendees visited over the weekend for reflection

The focus for all of us who attend is to pray, dream, and write the story in our hearts – one that inspires, gives peace, and strengthens the spirit. I had the opportunity to both speak at and attend this beautiful three-day event that focused on writing and spirituality. We experienced ancient healing techniques, used nature for connection, learned about journaling and memoir writing, stretched our bodies into beautiful yoga poses, experienced a powerful gong meditation that offered unique insight, and so much more.

My workshop was the first to occur early on Saturday morning. After dashing through the light rain to the main building, I found my place in a large room with a gorgeous view of the expansive land surrounding the retreat center. A field of vibrant green grass was surrounded by a thick swath of mature trees, just beginning to show their autumn color. I was presenting a session called Creative Vision Board Workshop: Envision Your Success! and being in this soothing space was perfect for the message I planned to deliver.

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Our beautiful meeting space for The Path of Consciousness Retreat at the Colombiere Conference and Retreat Center in Clarkston, Michigan.

 

I talked about how we can choose to change at any time and that creating a vision board is much more than just putting pretty pictures on a poster board and forgetting about it. Creating our vision is a powerful first step in which we can manifest our dreams. I offered tools and techniques to assist in the growth process and shared some of my experiences which included the time I decided to leave corporate life to strike out on my own – which was scary and wonderful all at once.

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Sonya Julie presenting Creative Vision Board Workshop: Envision Your Success! at the Path of Consciousness Retreat

Thoughtful questions, head nods, the occasional shared laughter, and a sense of connection were felt as I shared my heart with the audience who was so willing to receive. Afterwards I had many rewarding conversations all weekend long with people about working towards their goals and dreams. I met so many beautiful people and was able to witness such tender truth and heartfelt emotion from the core of their magnificent souls as they blessed me with their thoughts and experiences.

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Weam Namou, founder of The Path of Consciousness, presenting Memoir Writing for Transformation
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Weam Namou’s books were available at the author table during The Path of Consciousness Retreat

 

I thoroughly enjoyed listening to Weam speak about memoir writing, especially because I am in the process of writing one myself presently. Creating a collection of stories from the heart is a transformative process that will allow me to shift my energy and experience deep personal growth. I appreciate her emphasis on creating quality material and utilizing professional editing – good advice for all types of writers.

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Patty Shaw signing her book and sharing smiles at the author and information table at The Path of Consciousness – a fun place to connect all weekend long

I loved hearing from Robert E. Haskins about handwriting analysis and when he analyzed my handwriting on my name tag, it was amazing as to how accurate it was and how the information flowed from his higher self to me. As he spoke to our group, he emphasized that in getting to know ourselves, we then experience tremendous growth. As we explore our subconscious mind we find buried information that will allow us to transform, heal, and move forward on our path.

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Robert E. Haskins presenting valuable insight about handwriting analysis at The Path of Consciousness Retreat

I had the pleasure of enjoying Mr. Haskins’ company as we sat together at lunch and offered gratitude for the bountiful food before us – lush salad greens with every imaginable topping, a variety of dressings, soups, and a beautiful meal of turkey and gravy prepared for the all the groups visiting the Colombiere Conference Center in Clarkston, Michigan.

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Everyone enjoyed the delicious bounty of food at the Colombiere Conference and Retreat Center

With big smiles and warm hearts, we shared life experiences, ideas, philosophies, and expressed what we appreciated about that moment – the birds perching on the large trees out the window that we chose to sit by and the wonderful people joining us at our table. Truly a kindred soul, I deeply felt that I had met him somewhere in a previous place and time.

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Wake Up Your Nature facilitated by Patty Shaw was enjoyed by all at The Path of Consciousness Retreat
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The beautiful grounds were part of our focus during Wake Up Your Nature at The Path of Consciousness Retreat
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Participants in Wake Up Your Nature were asked to think about how spirit lifts us up so that we may grow and share our stories

 

After lunch we went on a replenishing walk with Patty Shaw where she facilitated her workshop Wake Up Your Nature. She helped us to release that which no longer served us creatively and to gather inspiration and connection from the earth and our ancestors. It was a powerful experience and some participants shared what they felt. The most memorable for me was from the woman who noticed the bright yellow autumn leaves of a bush on the staircase as we ascended into the light and how it reminded her of her first spiritual awakening and it left goosebumps on my arms.

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Attendees were able to walk the full path on this beautiful Labyrinth at the Path of Consciousness Retreat with Lisa Argo facilitating
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Lisa Argo, enjoying her time at The Path of Consciousness Retreat

Next, I traveled through a labyrinth as Lisa Argo facilitated our journey through spirit and writing. The process was very much like the path of life, ever ebbing and flowing, passing through the light and the dark, the fast and the slow, through long and short segments, as we move through all the seasons of life. We encountered twist and turns, unexpected moments, and encounters with other people as we walked our path. I was offered release, illumination, and deep insight about where I am headed on my own path currently and that I am entering a phase in my life where I am going to be sharing, creating, and doing more of what is true to my heart.

In the following workshop, Weam Namou talked about journaling and how we can use this as a writer. I have kept journals for nearly all my life, sometimes writing more during certain periods than others, and this is material that I can draw upon when I am writing my books. We talked about the benefits of journaling which includes physical and mental well-being. We talked about honoring our time, the balance of life, and how journaling can help us to transform our lives in all areas.

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Weam Namou presenting Take Your Writing into the World on Sunday morning at the Path of Consciousness Retreat

 

Stiff bodies and writer’s hands were then stretched out along with our minds as Sandy Naimou presented Writing for Yoga. Connecting in to the earth on our mats in a cool dark room as Sandy played singing bowls helped us to assimilate that day’s experiences while stretching our bodies gently. For those who were unable to get down to ground level, an alternate chair yoga experience was incorporated so that all were able to benefit.

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Sandy Naimou with one of her singing bowls, ready to facilitate Yoga for Writers at The Path of Consciousness Retreat
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Attendees eagerly awaiting the start of Yoga for Writing at The Path of Consciousness

We reconvened in the Chapel after dinner where Vince Anthony Pitre facilitated his Deep Insight Gong Meditation. First, he described his experience with hearing gongs for the first time in Hawaii and how it has magically transformed his life. As the deep blue-colored glass of the chapel windows grew darker with the sun setting behind the billowing clouds outside, the room darkened and softened as he began to introduce the gongs to us, each vibrating within its own frequency and range. With our eyes closed, we delved into a spiritual journey, our cellular structures vibrating as the gongs offered us transformation. A diverse sharing of experiences enriched the following moments as we listened to the encounters of those around us with open minds and hearts.

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The Gongs set up in the Chapel, ready for Vince Anthony Pitre’s Deep Insight Gong Meditation
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Vince Anthony Pitre, ready to facilitate the Deep Insight Gong Meditation at The Path of Consciousness Retreat

There were so many special moments – too many to share here. What was most important to me was connecting with people. It was beautiful to see how every workshop and presentation was interconnected and very valuable to my writing and spiritual path. Other activities over the weekend included a Recapitulation exercise on Friday night and an Awakening the Dreamer Symposium on Sunday. A Fire Ceremony was scheduled for Saturday night but a light rain prevented it from occurring so instead we met indoors. We shared nourishment and our observations from the day and how we could carry these insights forward together to make the world a better place. I know that when I left on Sunday afternoon that I felt like a different person than when I arrived. The powerful and transformative energies of our connection is palpable and I feel empowered and ready to create!

The retreat was designed with this in mind: “The spiritual and writing retreat will allow you to enhance your writing, personal, and business life with the help of various ancient, sacred, and creative teachings, including writing and storytelling.” Every moment embraced this philosophy as I came together with this group of people. Some of us strangers at the start, we all quickly connected with each other to create a cohesive group of souls that found great healing, joy, and support as we spent the weekend together.

I am so excited for our next conference and retreat – I knew in my heart that this event would be extraordinary and meaningful. Because it was created from the heart of all who contributed to its existence, it has the power to gain momentum and to continually touch more and more lives. Just as the flower of life extends outward, overlapping in layers, ever expanding like our great universe, gatherings like this are what will heal our world, allowing us to envision and create that which is benevolent and good and share it with others. I offer my gratitude to all who were a part of this event. Namaste.

This event took place on October 5 – 7, 2018. For more information about the Path of Consciousness visit https://thepathofconsciousness.com/ – I hope to see you there next year!

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Ancient Trails and Equinox Stars: A Corridor of Light

The September Equinox Corridor of 2018

This week is a powerful time as we pass through the Harvest Full Moon and through the remainder of the equinox corridor (the days that follow the September 22 change of seasons).  We have been culminating wisdom and experiences over the spring and summer and now we come to a point where we reap the rewards of our struggles and efforts.

A Native White Pine along the Cass River, likely Hundreds of Years Old, truly a Keeper of Wisdom – Photo by Sonya Julie

Many have experienced slow and difficult situations, often experiencing darkness and pain and/or large life changes. Clarity and understanding now allows us to leave behind all that which no longer serves our highest good. We are free to discard the old to release all that which is no longer in alignment. This creates new space and allows you to anchor in a higher vibrational state of being. This is the joy one achieves when their actions and beliefs are aligned and all the pieces of their life have integrity and love at it’s core.

Ancient Trails

I celebrated the Autumn Equinox by visiting the Sanilac Petroglyph Historic State Park in Michigan with a friend. The petroglyphs are a sacred location where the indigenous people of Michigan came together for an annual meeting. Various representatives from the tribes and bands would come together and share their knowledge, make plans, and hold discussions. Gathering from all points, they would share their harvest which included duck, pigeon, cranberries, and wild rice. The site is located along the trails that were used by the natives for hundreds of years.

The site was lost in the process of settlement and taken over by vegetation but a fire revealed the stone outcropping and now the land is protected. Tribal gatherings resumed in 2002. It is located in the “thumb” of Michigan in Sanilac County along the Cass River.

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Ebmodaakowet, the Archer at the Sanilac Petroglyphs site

The petroglyphs depict a variety of stories and wisdom including the famous image of the Archer, Ebmodaakowet, who is shooting knowledge into the future, seven generations ahead. We are now coming into that seventh generation, into a new age and it is time for us to unlock the wisdom that has been sent to us.

I especially feel a strong connection to the archer but also love the significance of the other images as well. The Eagle Man is Migizi Inini, who looks to the new day of the east, ensuring that people are following traditions and teachings. Mishibzhew, the water panther, protects the waters of the Great Lakes.

My friend and I honored those who came together on this land and held an Equinox Ceremony, each participating in our unique way while unifying our efforts. We honored the circle of life, the four directions, and our ancestors who brought us to this now moment. My focus was to work with the energies of the land, asking to unlock its ancient wisdom while imparting my intentions to forge unity and loving growth for humanity.

In ceremony I felt the immense and powerful love of our creator and the clarity of vision being offered to us. We are fully supported in these times of change. I was told to trust my intuition and know that I am on the right path. I also feel the increased connection with benevolent unseen energies. We are moving into a higher level and the light is shining on more truths for all to see, asking us to review our beliefs and to find new and better ways to lives our lives collectively.

My friend’s message encourages us to find interpretations that empower our personal stories. We cannot live life according to the needs and expectations of others. It is important that we write our own script and it should be one that empowers us the most, allowing us to be the hero. This does not mean we are egoic or enhancing the truth, rather this means that we choose to share our observations and experiences with empowering words that are loving and light filled.

The Cass River – Photo by Sonya Julie
A Lovingly Prepared Meal of Earthly Delights to Celebrate Equinox

It was a beautiful day and we enjoyed this beautiful land along the flowing Cass River (despite the mosquitoes). Afterwards we shared a delicious meal together and enjoyed conversation and a gentle breeze while listening to bird song.

The Anishnabe (Ojibwe) tribes would celebrate equinox from dawn till dusk. Prior to the ceremonies they would begin with purification in the sweat lodge. Celebrating the circle of life and the four directions is a reflection on the cycles of life. Nothing is linear as it may seem for we are continually living in the hoop of life.

Into the Light

In this Equinox corridor I have been aware of so much incoming light which provides powerful information to assist us. I have also been aware of shimmering multicolored DNA-shaped strands of light that have had an increased energy, very much like the feathered serpent. In Mesoamerican religions, the symbolism of this deity was one of duality. Being feathered represents a divine nature while the serpent represents a closeness to earth. We now know that this represents the duality of humanity integrating, an awakening of our DNA as we evolve into a higher state where we literally blend heaven and earth.

The Sunlight through the Trees at the Sanilac Petroglyphs – Photo by Sonya Julie

Light holds codes and information that help us to awaken our consciousness. The current energies are working on assisting our cellular body structures to remove all that which is not pure love. Trapped emotions and ideas live in the body and present themselves as pain. According to Lisa Brown, “I have a saying, where you hold back is your lack…. look and see where this applies for you. This is an “all in” experience and the higher we go, the more uncomfortable the old gets. Uniting is a VIBRATIONAL thing…. it’s an ENERGY thing… it’s a PURITY thing…. all of that old programming inside… this is what we all came to fully TRANSCEND FROM WITHIN.”

Through cleansing and releasing the density of the old we make room for our bodies to bring in that which is light so that we may enjoy the freedom and beauty of living on this beautiful planet Earth. This influx of light is greatly assisting those who are ready to release the layers of egoic self through confronting fears. Through this process we can embrace clarity and light which will help us to come back to our true soul path.

The Astrology of Change

The Milky Way Galaxy was birthed from the M87 Galaxy

The full moon and equinox are aligning with M87, which is the galaxy who originally birthed our Milky Way galaxy. This alignment represents useful insight and information for those who are ready.  This is “clarifying the role of humanity (and Earth) within a galactic and intergalactic framework” according to Graham Forscutt.

As my friend Kalia Diya said, “I can confirm that this is happening from my own perspective with what has been happening recently in the ethers, with massive waves, downloads, shifts, disclosure, exposure, magnetic recalibrations, “things” coming to the surface, not only through the layers of our Planet, but through the layers of collective consciousness” which very much expresses what I have been feeling and experiencing as well.

I have connected to the Archer at the Sanilac Petroglyphs Historic State Park since my visit in the summer of 2017. I believe that many ancient sites have been designed to align with the seasons and star systems and that finding an awareness of this information helps us to further understand the wisdom of the site.

At the exact time of the Autumn Equinox on Saturday and again while visiting the petroglyphs the following day, I used my star tracking app on my phone to determine where the archer was pointing in the heavens in relation to this particular petroglyph. Both times the constellation on the visible horizon has been Gemini.

Gemini is a mutable air sign and represents duality and communication. The twins are represented by the number two, which is also very relevant to the energies surrounding the equinox and full moon. Gemini springs from the earth to provide the ability to know and understand reality. While Aries stands for subject matter and Taurus for the object, Gemini represents the relationship between the two. This gives rise to knowledge itself. The opposite of Gemini is Sagittarius, the Archer, who seeks to provide context and meaning to the information that the twins wish to accumulate. Humanity is gaining knowledge at this time and we will soon be finding more context in relation to our findings, both personally and collectively.

Gemini, Prominent in the Equinox Heavens – Photo from StarTrackerLife app

The symbol for Gemini represents unity in addition to duality because of the way the twin pillars are bound together, connecting to heaven and earth.  In Egyptian astrology, the Gemini constellation was called the ‘Two Stars’ or ‘Pimahi,’ which means ‘the United.’ This is significant because we are moving into a time where humanity will unite. Despite the seeming division as portrayed in media, many are coming together to share their darkness so that they may move into the light as one.

The full moon today, Monday, September 24 will occur in the sign of Aries, a sign of fire and new beginnings. We are being invited to be who we truly are. While at the petroglyphs I received a message indicating that we need to believe in our dreams and live from our heart. It is also important to embrace and accept our emotions so that we may grow and move forward. We are truly being afforded a brand new beginning at this unique time. It shall be interesting to see how humanity proceeds forward.

The Harvest Full Moon in Aries invites Authentic Change

This full moon will highlight our inner shadows and rather than being afraid, we are only required to understand and let go. It’s important to trust ourselves, our intuition, and to be able to push off from the shore of safety and enter the flow of life.

Moving Forward

In summary, humanity is in a time like no other. As we move forward, we continue to release the dark and the pain to make space for the light and the new. I invite you to review the last six months and to glean wisdom and understanding from all that you have been through and overcome. Understand and release this information and know that it is now safe to move forward. With self-love and intent, find your power and move forward.

It is a time for us to receive information in a way that allows us to spark new beginnings. Disclosure is ongoing while at the same time new information is becoming available to help us to improve our lives. We can continue to believe and live in the old “truths” or we can rewrite our story. What we believe is what we live. At this equinox we celebrate our growth as we move into balance and harmony. It is a time of creation. What experience will you create?

Chi Miigwech

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Forward Energy of Consciousness: Shutting Off Mind Chatter

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Gaining Clarity Through Insight – Practicing Mindfulness Techniques Allows You to Transform Your Life – Awakening The Core

Many people have brilliant ideas but are often unable to manifest them. What prevents them from moving forward? The ego. This is because the ego’s goal is keep us in low vibration thought patterns that perpetuate negative thoughts and beliefs such as fear, judgement, lack, selfishness, shame and jealousy. These kinds of thoughts often contribute to a perpetual cycle of self-defeating behaviors. A solid foundation cannot be built on a continual loop of negative thought. Something must break loose, to free the mind enough to allow it to travel in a new direction.

Learning to direct your energy and attention to your inner intuitive guidance system, or higher self, will allow you to rewrite the physical circuitry of the brain to create new mental paths. This then allows for new outcomes that are positive. This is often referred to as neuroplasticity in the world of science.

“We spend far too much time complaining about the way things are, and forget that we have the power to change everything.” – Bozoma Saint John

According to Joe Dispenza, “Neuroplasticity is our natural ability to change how the brain’s neurons are connected and organized into circuits, which we call its synaptic wiring. Every time we learn something new or have a novel experience, the brain makes new synaptic connections to form new neural patterns of networks – and this happens at any age. When we utilize new circuits in new ways, we rewire the brain to fire in new sequences.”

We can use the idea of neuroplasticity to create change for ourselves, so that we can move into a more positive state and open ourselves up to more opportunities, change, and growth. This process allows us to step out of the mind chatter and mental loops. The continual travelling of the same neural pathways repeatedly reinforces the thoughts and behaviors behind the chatter and loops. Finding a way to stop this pattern and create openings for new thoughts and behaviors is quite literally be mind-changing.

Working with the higher mind allows us to intuitively create. So how do you tap into the higher mind? The first step is to stop the mind chatter. There are many ways to approach this. One example is to bring your attention to your breath. Pay attention to each inhale and exhale, giving notice only to the breath. If you catch yourself thinking a thought, let it pass. Don’t judge yourself for having the thought, just notice it and then continue with the exercise.

It is life changing to create new neural pathways in the brain. To open the mind to new possibilities opens our life to change and new outcomes. I will be posting some videos soon to offer some techniques to practice mindfulness throughout your day. Visit me at www.AwakeningTheCore.com and on my Facebook Page  to learn about tapping into your unique personal growth and development.

In Love and Light,

Sonya

You Are A Powerful Creator

Moving Out of Negativity and Into Positive Transformation with the Four Agreements

There are times where we find ourselves to be self-critical or judgmental of others. There may be something that we view as negative and we spend time giving our energy away while ruminating about it.

We may take situations personally and feel offended by the actions or words of others. Or we may misunderstand an agreement and find ourselves assuming something which is inaccurate. Or perhaps we are the one who was not clearly communicating.

We can also be afraid to be ourselves, afraid of not being perfect and of vulnerability. We try to create an image of perfection to please others but this fails us because we are not being true to ourselves. When we feel we are not perfect enough, then we may feel self rejection.

We make so many agreements with ourselves. Perhaps “I am not any good at…” or “I always…” or  “I am a failure at…” or “I am better than anyone else at …” or “I cannot…” or “I should…”. The repetitive mantras we tell ourselves can often be negative. A better mantra might be something more like “I am loving when I…”, “I am capable when…”, “I am kind…”, or “I am honest…”. What would you rather reinforce? What kind of agreements should you be making?

So many difficult situations arise when we shift into old programmed behaviors that are less than loving and kind. There is much conditioning that goes into the thoughts and ideas we have about ourselves, others, and our world. By changing our agreements, we open up to new and improved outcomes.

We can break ourselves from negativity if we become aware of it and put in the work to create change. This in turn helps us to move from a toxic state into a more positive state. Everyone is challenged at one time or another. We are not perfect and that is what makes us so beautiful as humans because we have so many situations presented to us that allow us to grow.

We can find some enlightening concepts in a book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, which “reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needles suffering.” The agreements are a code of conduct that allow us to transform our lives, increase freedom, happiness, and love.

The Four Agreements Offer Us Freedom, True Happiness, and Love

I read this book over ten years ago when I was working in a harsh environment where I took difficult phone calls for a company. It was this book that helped me to see that the negative comments said to me over the phone were not about me at all, but rather they reflected the customer’s perceptions surrounding their own individual circumstances. Instead of taking their words personally, I learned to listen to the story behind their words to determine what was important to them so that I could offer them genuine understanding and the best assistance possible.

Just recently I found myself having a number of life situations that felt less than desirable. Before taking any action or making any judgement about myself or others, I decided to take time to reflect on what happened and how it could have gone better. It’s easy to make a quick judgement and point fingers, but ultimately I needed to observe the situation, figure out where I needed to improve, and to not condemn anyone involved (including myself). Forgiveness is important as well as maintaining a healthy and loving attitude. Even when we make mistakes, we can still adopt the principles behind the Four Agreements to move forward. We can create positive and loving interactions with both ourselves and others.

 Be Impeccable with Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

If you are not sure of something, ask questions, clarify, and reach out for more information. Say what you mean. This doesn’t mean to be unfiltered. Kindness and honesty are important. Don’t wander off with your words, saying something that sort of kind of means what you want to say but not exactly. Passive aggressive communication is not the best way for us to help others understand our concerns and intent. Words (and tone) are important, and it is critical that we are clear.

Be Impeccable With Your Word

Say what you think and speak your truth without blurting. Avoid using words that negatively impact yourself or gossip about others. When we speak an untruth about others, there is no benefit or positive flow. It might feel good at the moment to vent, share, or express yourself, but the aftermath of that not being impeccable is then out there forever. This creates a potentially toxic flow of energy. And toxicity requires healing and resolution.

Embellishing a statement or expanding into an area of half-truths to make a point is also lacking in impeccability. Are you using a casual bunch of words or one well said word? Also, be aware of your voice – is it loud, forceful, high pitched, or demanding? Is it irritated, intolerant, or unkind? Or perhaps emotional, whining, or freaked out? Making a conscious choice to speak evenly and slowly with intent and truth, when you are ready, is an opportunity to have others listen because they respect you more when there isn’t an emotional charge. People will listen to and respect words that have been well thought out delivered in a calm voice.

Think before you speak, make sure you are communicating clearly, and reach out for understanding in a loving and truthful manner. This may require follow up or asking questions to make sure both parties are clear about intent and expectations. Most importantly, strive to always act and communicate with integrity, truth, and loving intent.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Nothing that someone else does is because of you. Everything everyone does is because of them, their dream, their vision, their interpretations, and projections. What other people do and say is their projection of reality. When we become immune to the opinions and actions of others, there is nothing to take personally. This negates suffering because no one can make us feel sad, angry, or bad. We choose how we feel. Always. If we choose to base our feelings on other’s behaviors, we are allowing it.

We ultimately make the choice as to what belongs to us or not. We do not own other people’s projections of reality or behaviors and we do not need to make them our own, unless we choose to. We always have this choice.

So if something someone is doing is upsetting to you, remember that you don’t have to own that. You don’t have to take that on. Take that moment to stop and remind yourself that you get to choose moving forward how you feel and what you want to think about. It takes practice but this is one of the best things you could ever consciously work on.

Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

We all do it. A lightning-fast judgement is easy to come by and it’s challenging to find freedom in this way of operating. We must find the courage to ask questions and to express what we truly want. Sometimes we don’t want to step on other’s toes or bother them so we don’t ask for what we want. We are all guilty of this because we don’t want to ask questions. We are often afraid to ask questions because we don’t want to feel less than.

We are more respected when we do ask questions. Look deep for the courage to ask the questions that need to be asked. When someone misunderstands you, it is not them, it is us because we have chosen not to be articulate enough. When there is a misunderstanding, you are a co-creator, not the person who didn’t hear you clearly. This means you didn’t speak clearly or articulate clearly. If we can communicate clearly as we are possibly able to, we will have less drama and sadness.

Being truly willing to step out and ask questions instead of assuming will powerfully evolve ourselves from where we are to where we want to be. This agreement is difficult because we are afraid of appearing less than brilliant, perfect, powerful, or whole. The reality is that everyone can engage and freeing ourselves of assumptions is truly empowering

Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.

We are always operating from our own level of consciousness. When you can evolve your level of consciousness and work forward from that point, you are striving to do your best. When we are sick, weak, or having difficulty, we are coming from a different level of consciousness. We need to accept where we are at and not judge ourselves so harshly. Would you treat a friend like that? If not, then you are likely not being a good friend to yourself either. It’s okay if we did something stupid, said something we didn’t mean, made a mistake or were not clear… but this leaves a toxic residue out there if left unresolved.

If we can turn it around and understand that we were not paying full attention or that we did or said something wrong, we can understand that we were doing our best at that moment, kindly offer acceptance to ourselves, request forgiveness from others, and eliminate regret. If we are coming from our best self at our personal highest level of consciousness, we can negate that self-criticism and regret. Do not get mired in self judgement.

Always Do Your Best

Your Invitation

The Four Agreements are something that we can integrate into our daily life and if everyone practiced these, it would change the world. It takes time to integrate these practices into our lives, not just a day. We have decades of conditioned behaviors to contend with when we start and even with practice, no one is ever a hundred percent.

I invite you to find ways to integrate these practices into your daily life and experience the power and transformation they offer. You can focus on one agreement each day, for example, and find inventive and creative ways to implement it. Over time you can find many opportunities to usher in positive energy into your life through use of the agreements. Which one will you start with?

Love and Light,

Sonya