The Medicine Wheel Meditation

The Circle of Life

The Medicine Wheel has been used by all indigenous cultures. it is an ancient and sacred tool that offers us the opportunity for introspection and discovery. It is a way to honor our ancestors and our path on the circle of life.

The ancestors knew that time is circular, not linear, and this was represented by the sacred hoop, circle, or wheel. The term medicine  represents the inherent life force found in all of nature.

Travel occurs in the south, west, north, and east as we move around the wheel. This is much like how we travel through the seasons and phases of life. In doing so, we can look at all of our aspects: physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental.

As we travel the wheel, we explore the various influences of each direction in relation to our aspects and we honor ourselves through this exploration and integration. Our goal is to see the overall picture and to find harmony and balance at the center of our wheel.

The following is a guided meditation that I provided at the recent 2019 Path of Consciousness Spiritual and Writing Conference & Retreat that was held October 4-6, 2019 in beautiful southeast Michigan. It was a powerful gathering of community and we shared a magical and transformative weekend together.

I presented a workshop called Journaling Around the Wheel. I discussed using the wheel as a way to work through situations, problems, and ideas for the purpose of balanced exploration. I invite you to write down an idea, a problem, or a situation that you are working through and look at it through the lens of each direction.

The meditation:

 

Take a large breath in and release it from your mouth, perhaps sighing. And again, a large breath in… and let it out.

Now, continue breathing through your nose. Notice the coolness of the air as it passes your nostrils and enters your body. And notice how as you exhale, the warmth of the air.

Notice your body and where there is pressure – perhaps your seat on a chair, your feet on the floor, your hands on the table or in your lap. And then notice the places where there is no pressure.

Notice how you feel. By noticing our physical selves, we move into the Southern position on the wheel. The south represents the physical. This includes the body we reside in, the home that we live in, the money and resources that we have, and our ability to manifest.

The SOUTH is the place where life enters the planet. It represents children, lush growth, and the season of summer. It is here where we hold personal concerns.

Our emotions, thoughts, and life experiences make their ways into our bodies and become a living record – an innate physical wisdom that holds this information, waiting for us to notice, process, heal, and grow. The spaces that surround us and how we maintain them are an extension of this. We can allow life to flow or we can create blocks in the south.

I declare now, dear body, dear innate, thank you for supporting me and for this amazing experience of life on this planet. I love and nourish you. I allow life to flow and I release my blocks. I am safe and secure. I am grateful for all of the abundance in my life. I release the fear of self and embrace life, opening my heart to all of life.

Next we move to the WEST, the place of emotion. It is here where we watch for our inner cycles for understanding of the subtle tides that regulate the inner workings of self.

In taking time to examine ourselves, we can understand, heal, and grow our emotional selves and this extends to other areas of our lives as well.

The west is the season of autumn and adulthood. It holds the powers of introspection, intuition, and humility through which we will heal to receive dreams. It is the place where we have the first glimpse of the mystery beyond ourselves.

We meet our egos in the labyrinth of solitude. It is here that we confront our internal mirror and enter the passage where we meet our inner emotional selves within our consciousness.

We also look at dreams and death in the west. We confront and reflect on all the aspects of our emotional selves here. Explore your dreams, delve into your feelings about death. Society tells us to fear death, yet our ancestors knew that it is merely a phase in the eternal circle of life.

In the west we explore emotions such as anger, fear, sadness, surprise, and joy. It is here where we can choose to dive into emotion and feel it fully, get to know it intimately, and connect it with other aspects of our life to learn and grow.

Do your emotions control you? Do you bury your emotions away? Through confronting our emotions, we can harvest and reap the rewards of our transformation.

Dear emotional self, I honor this human experience and will not deny you any emotion, for every emotion offers an opportunity to learn and expand. Thank you for the beautiful experience of human emotion. I embrace it fully.

The NORTH is our next destination. The north represents the place of spirit that connects us to our soul’s journey. Every step we take is sacred and offers us the opportunity to learn and grow. Understanding that we are one with the universe and connected to everything helps us to align with our higher selves and our life purpose.

The north is the place of eternal winter, mountains, and old age. It is wisdom, strength, creativity, inspiration, understanding, and knowledge. It is here that we see the great vision of life. This is the place where we find true courage, to leave behind external authority and to find the creator within. It is a place of sovereignty, self-authority, and an expanded sense of knowingness.

It is here that we come to know the messages of our dreams, to tap into our power of healing, to find silence in meditation, and to connect with the circle of life.

This is where we find our true work, beyond competition and ambition, where life does not belong to us anymore but to our purpose and the vision of the universal whole.

Aham Bramasmi. I am the universe.

I am all that.

I am.

We move from the dark to the brilliance of light. We move to the EAST where the sun rises and spring arrives. The east is the direction of the mind. We use our mental abilities to create.

The east is represented by the eagle who flies high over the land with courage and swiftness. This represents the expansive view that offers great detail as well as an understanding of the overall picture. It signifies the awakening of the mind that represents our visionary selves. It is here that we learn about tools of personal alchemy and how we can harness the natural forces of the universe.

We can make our minds strong when we learn to control the mind, recognizing and controlling mind chatter so that we can make better use of this amazing computer that we have been equipped with. Our mind does not define us, rather it is an amazing tool that is at our service. By connecting to our heart first, we can then utilize the mind to assist us in living our right life.

How do you think about things? Are you logical? Are you disciplined? How do you approach problems? The east represents expanded wisdom and the season of Spring, a time of growth.  It is a time to take great care of the seeds that we plant and bring the much-needed nourishment and moisture.

When we tend to our thoughts and utilize wisdom in a practical way, we are better able to live out our daily lives.

My mind is a clear and powerful tool that helps my heart to live its dream fully. I love my beautiful and practical mind.

Now take a deep breath. Move to the CENTER of the wheel. Feel each of the four directions surrounding you. You are at the zenith of the wheel, the place of all perspectives.

This is the great earth turtle in the middle of a calm ocean, extending to infinity. The powers found here are balance, perseverance, and patience. This is where shadow and light meet, a place of invulnerability, where the greatness of all creation lives within. It is a place of openness and complete protection.

In the center of my wheel I am in the sacred circle. It is here that I honor my highest self and all of creation. I am fully safe and protected here. I am patience. I am love. I am perseverance. I am balance.

A deep breath in and let it out through your mouth with a sigh… and again.

 

Miigwech. Thank you.

 

 

 

 

The Wheel and The Lion: Navigating the Energies of August

Lion’s Gate is such a potent and beautiful time of year. This post talks about the current energies and using the Medicine Wheel as a tool to shift through this phase.

Today, August 8, is the day that represents the height of Lion’s Gate – and the point of mid-summer. Astrologically, Lion’s Gate takes place July 26 through August 12, though many feel its energies extended beyond these dates. This corridor of time represents prosperity and fertility. It also looks to physicality and strength – but through the lens of wisdom, love, and higher thinking. It is a powerful time of manifestation and can be enhanced by using powerful tools like the Medicine Wheel.

From the times of ancient Babylon, astrologers have connected the patterns of the heavens to various elements of life on earth. As above, so below. Our connection with celestial phenomena is a reflection of our connection with all of life.

The astrological sign of Leo currently rules the heavens. From July 22 to August 21, we are ruled by the Sun and the element of fire. It is a time to focus on not only physical strength, but also strength of heart, mind, and soul. By exploring and strengthening all of our aspects, we create the spark that enables us to embrace higher wisdom, take bold action and manifest as we meet this season of the bountiful harvest.

Our human ego-self is limited in vision and scope so it is important to remember that we can overcome this smallness. Summer is a time to release self-imposed limitations and to cast off the illusion of lack. Summer is represented by the element of fire which is purifying. Physical change is also a part of this active phase.

It’s the perfect time to explore and tap into feeling from our hearts and living from our higher selves. If we are to gain personal freedom, we must learn to understand and balance all our aspects so that through healing and growth we may become sovereign beings.

What does that mean? Many of us start on our healing path because we want to feel better, overcome trauma, or find more meaning in our lives. As we begin to explore our gifts, manage our energy, and stop focusing on our problems, we open up the space to start pondering the mysteries of the Divine. This is when we truly begin to awaken to our higher selves, tapping into the universal collective and innate wisdom.

Accessing our inner wisdom will allow us to move forward on our paths. Seeking to clear ourselves of limitations and negativity so that we may reflect benevolence can be done through the ongoing development of a deep understanding that reflects love, compassion, strength, and patience. Each of us is on an entirely unique path so this will look different for each person.

This present time is perfect for honoring ourselves through self-care, and not just the materialistic kind that you might read about in a pop-culture magazine. We need to authentically care for ourselves in all our many aspects and one way to approach this is to use The Wheel.

All indigenous cultures have used a form of The Medicine Wheel – traveling from one direction to the next, exploring all the facets of the human existence. The term medicine does not refer to medical matters, rather medicine represents the inherent life force found in all of nature. Travel occurs in the South, West, North, and East as we circle through the seasons and phases of life.

There are numerous variations of the medicine wheel, yet they all drive us to reflect on similar principles and ideas. As we journey through the wheel, we tend to all our aspects – physical, emotional spiritual, and mental. This allows us to honor ourselves by integrating all our aspects and to connect them with the present emphasis on manifestation during this time of the Lion’s Gate.

The Medicine Wheel

We begin to travel through the Wheel from the South, where we consider physical aspects. Self-care can take on the form of exercise, massage, diet, and other self-care modalities. Also be aware that the south represents manifestation. Tend to your finances, make lists of what needs to be done, make plans for your business, nourish your dreams, care for your living spaces and belongings, and give care to all areas of physicality in your life.

Next we travel to the West, the place of emotion. It is here where we watch for our inner cycles for understanding of the subtle tides that regulate the inner workings of self. When we take time to examine, understand, heal, and grow our emotional selves, it allows us to heal and grow in other areas of our lives as well.

Society often teaches us to block out our emotions or to dwell on negative emotions such as hate, jealousy, judgement, and greed. By examining and learning to direct your emotional health, you can make major changes in our life. Carefully select what media you consume and find time to connect with nature all year long. Eliminate anything that does not honor your sacred soul and embrace that which gives you joy, hope, courage, and confidence.

Take time to examine your emotions, seeking to clear out anything that feels less than benevolent. This often requires hard work and determination. You might decide to seek out a life coach, therapist, counselor, past life reader, tarot reader, energetic healer, or another professional who offers insight. Be sure to select someone who intuitively feels like a good fit. You might also seek out self-help books, videos, workshops, resources, and materials that resonate with you.

The North is the place of the spirit and connects to our soul’s journey. Every step we take is sacred and offers us the opportunity to learn and grow. Understanding that we are one with the universe and connected to every thing and every living being helps us to align with our higher selves and our life purpose.

Seeking out spiritual wisdom and experiences are a part of the north path. Deciphering the messages in our dreams, delving into a yoga practice, meditating, visiting an Energy Healer, and paying attention to the messages of the universe are a few of many ways to connect. Incorporating positive affirmations, creating inspiring spaces, working with the elementals, and spending time in nature are a few of many ways to connect with your spirit; we may assimilate elements from the other directions in developing our spirituality in the North. These are tools that help us to transform. Our goal is to find that place of stillness, where we are divinely connected. We absorb this energy and spread it out into the world, sharing our light.

And finally, we visit the East, the direction of the mind. Ancient wisdom allows us to create using wisdom, knowledge, and our mental abilities. The east is represented by the Eagle who flies high over the land with courage and swiftness. This represents an expansive view that offers great detail as well as an understanding of the overall picture. It signifies an awakening of the mind that represents our visionary selves. It is here that we learn about tools of personal alchemy and how we can harness the natural forces of the universe.

Working to reduce and eliminate mind chatter strengthens the mind and provides us with the freedom to be our authentic selves. Purposefully utilizing the mind is most helpful when you are first and foremost connected to your heart. Living through our heart and soul is the path to living a life of purpose. When we recognize this, we can then utilize the mind as a tool and understand its purpose.

Travelling through all the segments of the Wheel allows us to be more thorough in our self-care efforts and affords us greater opportunity to manifest at this potent time of year. The Wheel also represents peaceful interaction between all living beings on earth. This is a reflection of that which we wish to achieve within and without ourselves.

People have celebrated the cycle of life through circles and wheels throughout all of time. The wheel is an integral part of our spiritual heritage. As we grow, we change like the seasons as we pass through layers of the wheel, learning from each segment.

We live at the center of the wheel and we want to be in balance. We want to be at the center of knowledge and the rhythm of life. We often circle back around in layers to certain people and situations throughout our life, each cycle offering a lesson and an opportunity. It is your choice to take responsibility to face your fears, overcome your shadows, and to know that you have the power to heal yourself and set the course of your direction.

The sun has moved into the ruling sign of Leo which has cleared the way for the constellation of Sirius to rise up clearly without obstruction from the Sun, signifying completion and rebirth. Sirius is the brightest star in the Earth’s night sky and its name means “glowing” in Greek because it is so bright. It is also known as the “dog star” and is over twenty times brighter than our sun and is twice as massive.

A screen capture from an app called StarTrackerLite. This image is of the Sirius constellation captured on August 8, 2019.

Ancient artifacts indicate the great importance Sirius has held for humanity. Sirius is connected to divine creation and represents the feminine. It represents manifestation without ego. Sirius also represents an expanded consciousness that encompasses both physical and non-physical dimensions.

August is the eight month of the year and Eight represents progress, activity, and manifestation. Embrace these aspects now so that we can transition to the unconscious influences of autumn and then the silence of winter so that we may be nourished and prepare for the cycles as they meet us. Yet be mindful that there are many competing energies at this time and that you may feel less than energetic.

Allow yourself time for rest and relaxation so that you may regain your strength with ease after times of repose. Use times of energetic enthusiasm to address those things needing your attention in a more physically and mentally demanding way. Adjusting to the flow of life is like a river embracing the ever-changing land, moving with the seasons and varying conditions.

At this time of vitality, fullness, ripeness, and maturity, we prepare to move forward to a time of surrender, the autumn, where intuition and the unknown take over. The present is a powerful time to conquer our shadows and honor the divine as we grow and create. I invite you to take time to examine your aspects through the directions of the wheel, to care for yourself, and to embrace the manifestation of that which brings divine love and positive self-empowerment into your life at this auspicious time.

 

 

Ancient Trails and Equinox Stars: A Corridor of Light

The September Equinox Corridor of 2018

This week is a powerful time as we pass through the Harvest Full Moon and through the remainder of the equinox corridor (the days that follow the September 22 change of seasons).  We have been culminating wisdom and experiences over the spring and summer and now we come to a point where we reap the rewards of our struggles and efforts.

A Native White Pine along the Cass River, likely Hundreds of Years Old, truly a Keeper of Wisdom – Photo by Sonya Julie

Many have experienced slow and difficult situations, often experiencing darkness and pain and/or large life changes. Clarity and understanding now allows us to leave behind all that which no longer serves our highest good. We are free to discard the old to release all that which is no longer in alignment. This creates new space and allows you to anchor in a higher vibrational state of being. This is the joy one achieves when their actions and beliefs are aligned and all the pieces of their life have integrity and love at it’s core.

Ancient Trails

I celebrated the Autumn Equinox by visiting the Sanilac Petroglyph Historic State Park in Michigan with a friend. The petroglyphs are a sacred location where the indigenous people of Michigan came together for an annual meeting. Various representatives from the tribes and bands would come together and share their knowledge, make plans, and hold discussions. Gathering from all points, they would share their harvest which included duck, pigeon, cranberries, and wild rice. The site is located along the trails that were used by the natives for hundreds of years.

The site was lost in the process of settlement and taken over by vegetation but a fire revealed the stone outcropping and now the land is protected. Tribal gatherings resumed in 2002. It is located in the “thumb” of Michigan in Sanilac County along the Cass River.

The Ancient Trail System of Michigan
Ebmodaakowet, the Archer at the Sanilac Petroglyphs site

The petroglyphs depict a variety of stories and wisdom including the famous image of the Archer, Ebmodaakowet, who is shooting knowledge into the future, seven generations ahead. We are now coming into that seventh generation, into a new age and it is time for us to unlock the wisdom that has been sent to us.

I especially feel a strong connection to the archer but also love the significance of the other images as well. The Eagle Man is Migizi Inini, who looks to the new day of the east, ensuring that people are following traditions and teachings. Mishibzhew, the water panther, protects the waters of the Great Lakes.

My friend and I honored those who came together on this land and held an Equinox Ceremony, each participating in our unique way while unifying our efforts. We honored the circle of life, the four directions, and our ancestors who brought us to this now moment. My focus was to work with the energies of the land, asking to unlock its ancient wisdom while imparting my intentions to forge unity and loving growth for humanity.

In ceremony I felt the immense and powerful love of our creator and the clarity of vision being offered to us. We are fully supported in these times of change. I was told to trust my intuition and know that I am on the right path. I also feel the increased connection with benevolent unseen energies. We are moving into a higher level and the light is shining on more truths for all to see, asking us to review our beliefs and to find new and better ways to lives our lives collectively.

My friend’s message encourages us to find interpretations that empower our personal stories. We cannot live life according to the needs and expectations of others. It is important that we write our own script and it should be one that empowers us the most, allowing us to be the hero. This does not mean we are egoic or enhancing the truth, rather this means that we choose to share our observations and experiences with empowering words that are loving and light filled.

The Cass River – Photo by Sonya Julie
A Lovingly Prepared Meal of Earthly Delights to Celebrate Equinox

It was a beautiful day and we enjoyed this beautiful land along the flowing Cass River (despite the mosquitoes). Afterwards we shared a delicious meal together and enjoyed conversation and a gentle breeze while listening to bird song.

The Anishnabe (Ojibwe) tribes would celebrate equinox from dawn till dusk. Prior to the ceremonies they would begin with purification in the sweat lodge. Celebrating the circle of life and the four directions is a reflection on the cycles of life. Nothing is linear as it may seem for we are continually living in the hoop of life.

Into the Light

In this Equinox corridor I have been aware of so much incoming light which provides powerful information to assist us. I have also been aware of shimmering multicolored DNA-shaped strands of light that have had an increased energy, very much like the feathered serpent. In Mesoamerican religions, the symbolism of this deity was one of duality. Being feathered represents a divine nature while the serpent represents a closeness to earth. We now know that this represents the duality of humanity integrating, an awakening of our DNA as we evolve into a higher state where we literally blend heaven and earth.

The Sunlight through the Trees at the Sanilac Petroglyphs – Photo by Sonya Julie

Light holds codes and information that help us to awaken our consciousness. The current energies are working on assisting our cellular body structures to remove all that which is not pure love. Trapped emotions and ideas live in the body and present themselves as pain. According to Lisa Brown, “I have a saying, where you hold back is your lack…. look and see where this applies for you. This is an “all in” experience and the higher we go, the more uncomfortable the old gets. Uniting is a VIBRATIONAL thing…. it’s an ENERGY thing… it’s a PURITY thing…. all of that old programming inside… this is what we all came to fully TRANSCEND FROM WITHIN.”

Through cleansing and releasing the density of the old we make room for our bodies to bring in that which is light so that we may enjoy the freedom and beauty of living on this beautiful planet Earth. This influx of light is greatly assisting those who are ready to release the layers of egoic self through confronting fears. Through this process we can embrace clarity and light which will help us to come back to our true soul path.

The Astrology of Change

The Milky Way Galaxy was birthed from the M87 Galaxy

The full moon and equinox are aligning with M87, which is the galaxy who originally birthed our Milky Way galaxy. This alignment represents useful insight and information for those who are ready.  This is “clarifying the role of humanity (and Earth) within a galactic and intergalactic framework” according to Graham Forscutt.

As my friend Kalia Diya said, “I can confirm that this is happening from my own perspective with what has been happening recently in the ethers, with massive waves, downloads, shifts, disclosure, exposure, magnetic recalibrations, “things” coming to the surface, not only through the layers of our Planet, but through the layers of collective consciousness” which very much expresses what I have been feeling and experiencing as well.

I have connected to the Archer at the Sanilac Petroglyphs Historic State Park since my visit in the summer of 2017. I believe that many ancient sites have been designed to align with the seasons and star systems and that finding an awareness of this information helps us to further understand the wisdom of the site.

At the exact time of the Autumn Equinox on Saturday and again while visiting the petroglyphs the following day, I used my star tracking app on my phone to determine where the archer was pointing in the heavens in relation to this particular petroglyph. Both times the constellation on the visible horizon has been Gemini.

Gemini is a mutable air sign and represents duality and communication. The twins are represented by the number two, which is also very relevant to the energies surrounding the equinox and full moon. Gemini springs from the earth to provide the ability to know and understand reality. While Aries stands for subject matter and Taurus for the object, Gemini represents the relationship between the two. This gives rise to knowledge itself. The opposite of Gemini is Sagittarius, the Archer, who seeks to provide context and meaning to the information that the twins wish to accumulate. Humanity is gaining knowledge at this time and we will soon be finding more context in relation to our findings, both personally and collectively.

Gemini, Prominent in the Equinox Heavens – Photo from StarTrackerLife app

The symbol for Gemini represents unity in addition to duality because of the way the twin pillars are bound together, connecting to heaven and earth.  In Egyptian astrology, the Gemini constellation was called the ‘Two Stars’ or ‘Pimahi,’ which means ‘the United.’ This is significant because we are moving into a time where humanity will unite. Despite the seeming division as portrayed in media, many are coming together to share their darkness so that they may move into the light as one.

The full moon today, Monday, September 24 will occur in the sign of Aries, a sign of fire and new beginnings. We are being invited to be who we truly are. While at the petroglyphs I received a message indicating that we need to believe in our dreams and live from our heart. It is also important to embrace and accept our emotions so that we may grow and move forward. We are truly being afforded a brand new beginning at this unique time. It shall be interesting to see how humanity proceeds forward.

The Harvest Full Moon in Aries invites Authentic Change

This full moon will highlight our inner shadows and rather than being afraid, we are only required to understand and let go. It’s important to trust ourselves, our intuition, and to be able to push off from the shore of safety and enter the flow of life.

Moving Forward

In summary, humanity is in a time like no other. As we move forward, we continue to release the dark and the pain to make space for the light and the new. I invite you to review the last six months and to glean wisdom and understanding from all that you have been through and overcome. Understand and release this information and know that it is now safe to move forward. With self-love and intent, find your power and move forward.

It is a time for us to receive information in a way that allows us to spark new beginnings. Disclosure is ongoing while at the same time new information is becoming available to help us to improve our lives. We can continue to believe and live in the old “truths” or we can rewrite our story. What we believe is what we live. At this equinox we celebrate our growth as we move into balance and harmony. It is a time of creation. What experience will you create?

Chi Miigwech

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Forward Energy of Consciousness: Shutting Off Mind Chatter

Clarity - Photo Courtesy of Pexels
Gaining Clarity Through Insight – Practicing Mindfulness Techniques Allows You to Transform Your Life – Awakening The Core

Many people have brilliant ideas but are often unable to manifest them. What prevents them from moving forward? The ego. This is because the ego’s goal is keep us in low vibration thought patterns that perpetuate negative thoughts and beliefs such as fear, judgement, lack, selfishness, shame and jealousy. These kinds of thoughts often contribute to a perpetual cycle of self-defeating behaviors. A solid foundation cannot be built on a continual loop of negative thought. Something must break loose, to free the mind enough to allow it to travel in a new direction.

Learning to direct your energy and attention to your inner intuitive guidance system, or higher self, will allow you to rewrite the physical circuitry of the brain to create new mental paths. This then allows for new outcomes that are positive. This is often referred to as neuroplasticity in the world of science.

“We spend far too much time complaining about the way things are, and forget that we have the power to change everything.” – Bozoma Saint John

According to Joe Dispenza, “Neuroplasticity is our natural ability to change how the brain’s neurons are connected and organized into circuits, which we call its synaptic wiring. Every time we learn something new or have a novel experience, the brain makes new synaptic connections to form new neural patterns of networks – and this happens at any age. When we utilize new circuits in new ways, we rewire the brain to fire in new sequences.”

We can use the idea of neuroplasticity to create change for ourselves, so that we can move into a more positive state and open ourselves up to more opportunities, change, and growth. This process allows us to step out of the mind chatter and mental loops. The continual travelling of the same neural pathways repeatedly reinforces the thoughts and behaviors behind the chatter and loops. Finding a way to stop this pattern and create openings for new thoughts and behaviors is quite literally be mind-changing.

Working with the higher mind allows us to intuitively create. So how do you tap into the higher mind? The first step is to stop the mind chatter. There are many ways to approach this. One example is to bring your attention to your breath. Pay attention to each inhale and exhale, giving notice only to the breath. If you catch yourself thinking a thought, let it pass. Don’t judge yourself for having the thought, just notice it and then continue with the exercise.

It is life changing to create new neural pathways in the brain. To open the mind to new possibilities opens our life to change and new outcomes. I will be posting some videos soon to offer some techniques to practice mindfulness throughout your day. Visit me at www.AwakeningTheCore.com and on my Facebook Page  to learn about tapping into your unique personal growth and development.

In Love and Light,

Sonya

You Are A Powerful Creator

Moving Out of Negativity and Into Positive Transformation with the Four Agreements

There are times where we find ourselves to be self-critical or judgmental of others. There may be something that we view as negative and we spend time giving our energy away while ruminating about it.

We may take situations personally and feel offended by the actions or words of others. Or we may misunderstand an agreement and find ourselves assuming something which is inaccurate. Or perhaps we are the one who was not clearly communicating.

We can also be afraid to be ourselves, afraid of not being perfect and of vulnerability. We try to create an image of perfection to please others but this fails us because we are not being true to ourselves. When we feel we are not perfect enough, then we may feel self rejection.

We make so many agreements with ourselves. Perhaps “I am not any good at…” or “I always…” or  “I am a failure at…” or “I am better than anyone else at …” or “I cannot…” or “I should…”. The repetitive mantras we tell ourselves can often be negative. A better mantra might be something more like “I am loving when I…”, “I am capable when…”, “I am kind…”, or “I am honest…”. What would you rather reinforce? What kind of agreements should you be making?

So many difficult situations arise when we shift into old programmed behaviors that are less than loving and kind. There is much conditioning that goes into the thoughts and ideas we have about ourselves, others, and our world. By changing our agreements, we open up to new and improved outcomes.

We can break ourselves from negativity if we become aware of it and put in the work to create change. This in turn helps us to move from a toxic state into a more positive state. Everyone is challenged at one time or another. We are not perfect and that is what makes us so beautiful as humans because we have so many situations presented to us that allow us to grow.

We can find some enlightening concepts in a book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, which “reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needles suffering.” The agreements are a code of conduct that allow us to transform our lives, increase freedom, happiness, and love.

The Four Agreements Offer Us Freedom, True Happiness, and Love

I read this book over ten years ago when I was working in a harsh environment where I took difficult phone calls for a company. It was this book that helped me to see that the negative comments said to me over the phone were not about me at all, but rather they reflected the customer’s perceptions surrounding their own individual circumstances. Instead of taking their words personally, I learned to listen to the story behind their words to determine what was important to them so that I could offer them genuine understanding and the best assistance possible.

Just recently I found myself having a number of life situations that felt less than desirable. Before taking any action or making any judgement about myself or others, I decided to take time to reflect on what happened and how it could have gone better. It’s easy to make a quick judgement and point fingers, but ultimately I needed to observe the situation, figure out where I needed to improve, and to not condemn anyone involved (including myself). Forgiveness is important as well as maintaining a healthy and loving attitude. Even when we make mistakes, we can still adopt the principles behind the Four Agreements to move forward. We can create positive and loving interactions with both ourselves and others.

 Be Impeccable with Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

If you are not sure of something, ask questions, clarify, and reach out for more information. Say what you mean. This doesn’t mean to be unfiltered. Kindness and honesty are important. Don’t wander off with your words, saying something that sort of kind of means what you want to say but not exactly. Passive aggressive communication is not the best way for us to help others understand our concerns and intent. Words (and tone) are important, and it is critical that we are clear.

Be Impeccable With Your Word

Say what you think and speak your truth without blurting. Avoid using words that negatively impact yourself or gossip about others. When we speak an untruth about others, there is no benefit or positive flow. It might feel good at the moment to vent, share, or express yourself, but the aftermath of that not being impeccable is then out there forever. This creates a potentially toxic flow of energy. And toxicity requires healing and resolution.

Embellishing a statement or expanding into an area of half-truths to make a point is also lacking in impeccability. Are you using a casual bunch of words or one well said word? Also, be aware of your voice – is it loud, forceful, high pitched, or demanding? Is it irritated, intolerant, or unkind? Or perhaps emotional, whining, or freaked out? Making a conscious choice to speak evenly and slowly with intent and truth, when you are ready, is an opportunity to have others listen because they respect you more when there isn’t an emotional charge. People will listen to and respect words that have been well thought out delivered in a calm voice.

Think before you speak, make sure you are communicating clearly, and reach out for understanding in a loving and truthful manner. This may require follow up or asking questions to make sure both parties are clear about intent and expectations. Most importantly, strive to always act and communicate with integrity, truth, and loving intent.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Nothing that someone else does is because of you. Everything everyone does is because of them, their dream, their vision, their interpretations, and projections. What other people do and say is their projection of reality. When we become immune to the opinions and actions of others, there is nothing to take personally. This negates suffering because no one can make us feel sad, angry, or bad. We choose how we feel. Always. If we choose to base our feelings on other’s behaviors, we are allowing it.

We ultimately make the choice as to what belongs to us or not. We do not own other people’s projections of reality or behaviors and we do not need to make them our own, unless we choose to. We always have this choice.

So if something someone is doing is upsetting to you, remember that you don’t have to own that. You don’t have to take that on. Take that moment to stop and remind yourself that you get to choose moving forward how you feel and what you want to think about. It takes practice but this is one of the best things you could ever consciously work on.

Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

We all do it. A lightning-fast judgement is easy to come by and it’s challenging to find freedom in this way of operating. We must find the courage to ask questions and to express what we truly want. Sometimes we don’t want to step on other’s toes or bother them so we don’t ask for what we want. We are all guilty of this because we don’t want to ask questions. We are often afraid to ask questions because we don’t want to feel less than.

We are more respected when we do ask questions. Look deep for the courage to ask the questions that need to be asked. When someone misunderstands you, it is not them, it is us because we have chosen not to be articulate enough. When there is a misunderstanding, you are a co-creator, not the person who didn’t hear you clearly. This means you didn’t speak clearly or articulate clearly. If we can communicate clearly as we are possibly able to, we will have less drama and sadness.

Being truly willing to step out and ask questions instead of assuming will powerfully evolve ourselves from where we are to where we want to be. This agreement is difficult because we are afraid of appearing less than brilliant, perfect, powerful, or whole. The reality is that everyone can engage and freeing ourselves of assumptions is truly empowering

Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.

We are always operating from our own level of consciousness. When you can evolve your level of consciousness and work forward from that point, you are striving to do your best. When we are sick, weak, or having difficulty, we are coming from a different level of consciousness. We need to accept where we are at and not judge ourselves so harshly. Would you treat a friend like that? If not, then you are likely not being a good friend to yourself either. It’s okay if we did something stupid, said something we didn’t mean, made a mistake or were not clear… but this leaves a toxic residue out there if left unresolved.

If we can turn it around and understand that we were not paying full attention or that we did or said something wrong, we can understand that we were doing our best at that moment, kindly offer acceptance to ourselves, request forgiveness from others, and eliminate regret. If we are coming from our best self at our personal highest level of consciousness, we can negate that self-criticism and regret. Do not get mired in self judgement.

Always Do Your Best

Your Invitation

The Four Agreements are something that we can integrate into our daily life and if everyone practiced these, it would change the world. It takes time to integrate these practices into our lives, not just a day. We have decades of conditioned behaviors to contend with when we start and even with practice, no one is ever a hundred percent.

I invite you to find ways to integrate these practices into your daily life and experience the power and transformation they offer. You can focus on one agreement each day, for example, and find inventive and creative ways to implement it. Over time you can find many opportunities to usher in positive energy into your life through use of the agreements. Which one will you start with?

Love and Light,

Sonya